Notes that was summarized based on surah Al-Hujarat Ayat 12 covered in the book entitled “Revive Your Heart” written by NAK
In Surah Al-Hujarat, the 49th surah, there is a list of timeless Muslim morals, Muslim principles that if we abide by them, teach us how to live together as a healthy social society.
These principles aren’t just about how Muslims are supposed to treat each other but also about the way we deal with all of humanity. How we’re supposed to be with the people around us.
Here in this post, I just want to highlight only ONE expression from within the ayat.
Al-Hujarat 49: 12 on Assumptions
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ
Technically in depth explanation, I want to recommend you to read up from the book itself; what is the root word from Arabic that explains the meaning of the message, what is the related Arabic words that makes the message more clarity.
As I grew up, my mother always reminding us kids on this “sangka buruk” thingy, it has always been discussed with usrah group too when I was in university. Yet, as forgetful human being that is living often around virtual humanity, I and you in need of constant reminder. This time around, i’m seeking this wisdom voluntarily for self protection.
By knowing that this thought is inevitable, makes me more careful and vigilant to try my hardest in avoiding it.
We live in social media generation where almost everyone is so competitive exposing themselves to the public which invite netizen’s temptation to judge and make assumptions about one another . Netizen has become so sharp-eyed on other people’s mistake – if they found something wrong on people’s posting, caption, comments etc they couldn’t help but to quickly criticize it based on their assumption, without having fact check about it.
Not just on social media, in real life also we face the same ill thoughts among family members, between husband wife, siblings, and relationships too. We tend to assume the opposite meaning for what people have said.
These is what we called zann. What zann is? (1) the opposite language (2) an assumption that grows to the point where now we absolutely convinced of something.
Have you ever faced it, where you’re labeled with a mistake that you unintentionally did in the past, and it has become like something people have convicted of you all your life. From assumptions then grows into a label, stereotyping people. Have you faced/seen this?
How to Avoid?
Learn to give the benefit of the doubt. You cannot assume that somebody doesn’t mean good for you. Whatever people did wrong, that doesn’t take away from all the good that they did, or they continue to do. You cannot reduce people to one thing that they have said. You can’t!
Meanwhile, from other perspective, If someone is proposing something to you or giving you some advice, you cannot assume it’s to one up you, to crush your pride or to humiliate you. It may be that they actually mean well for you. If zann takes over then we are no longer able to give each other good advice anymore.
I conclude with this:
Don’t assume and pass judgment until you have absolute clarity. Until you have clarity, you don’t say anything. You reserve your judgement.
If you don’t know enough just say,that you don’t know and not be part of those spreading zann.
May Allah help us live according to these principles and help us become those who don’t look for flaws in what other people are saying but rather develop sincerity towards others.